“If I am being kind to you but you think I’m being horrible, am I being kind or not?”
I think that if you believe that you are being kind to someone but the person that you are being kind to doesn’t think that you are being kind then you both have very different views on what kind is…
Personally my internal definition of kind is to go out of my way to be nice to someone.
The formal definition of kind is having or showing a friendly, generous, and considerate nature.
So to answer the question I think that if you think you are being kind to someone but they think you are being horrible then you aren’t trying hard enough to be .
But if you want to be annoying another definition of kind is a group of people or things having similar characteristics. And as humans we are all the same kind so then the answer would be yes, you were being kind because we are all the same species!